Co-parenting looks like many things and everybody’s relationship with their ex is different.  For me, there are times when we are acting as a team and other times, it seems we are foes.   

What does co-parenting look like?

It is constant compromise.   

It is constant putting your kids first when you really want to be petty. 

It is constant communication either verbally or through text.

It is constant praying for strength to be the bigger person. 

It is meeting the new lady in his life who might one day be your kid’s stepmother. 

It is seeing each other at graduations, dance recitals, serious doctor appointments, sporting meets, and funerals.

It is disagreements and heated exchanges.

It is emotionally draining.

But there is some good news.   You can successfully co-parent by learning co-parenting skills, understanding what your triggers are and practicing self-care. 

Now that you are not together all the time, you have space and time to breathe and think about the next chapter in your live.   Now you can meet the partner you were truly supposed to be with. You can use this time of separateness to heal and to work on yourself so that when you do meet the right person, you will recognize it and receive it.

Tracy Kerney is a divorced single mother of two daughters.  She was born and bred on the South Side of Chicago and loves her city. By trade, she is a freelance court reporter. When not spending time with her girls, you can find her at the gym, experimenting with recipes or just dancing in the middle of her living room.   Positive vibes are her thing. Tracy started this blog as a creative outlet, but she also wanted to journal this journey of transitioning from a married mother to a single mother and its ups and downs. She hopes to encourage other mothers in similar circumstances that, yes, this is a challenging time, but it is also an exciting time to start over afresh and anew.
Over the last four years, she has lost her marriage, survived a divorce, beat a health scare, almost lost her home and lastly learned of a family secret that would forever change her life and through faith, family and friends, she is still standing and you can too. Single moms are fierce and resilient! Let’s celebrate us.